Father's Day 2014 - NonViolent Action / See Documentary - June 20th.

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From: John Murtari (jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org)
Date: Sun Jun 16 2013 - 11:24:03 EDT

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Good People & People of Faith,

This message has info on:

1) Brief video of "Fatherless Day" -- what's the message?
2) Creating empathy - Actions still speak louder than words.
3) Father's Day 2014 - peacefully hand-cuffed because you love your kids?
4) SupportTheMove - See it June 20th in Cherry Hill, New Jersey!

*1)  Brief video of "Fatherless Day"*

I went to a "Fatherless Day" Rally in New York last year. It was a 
beautiful day! I met a bunch of nice people. I took a video you really 
have to watch (only 80 seconds) --http://youtu.be/8ofDQtrsPAs

*What was the message?* Imagine walking by the Rally. Answer a simple 
question -- What do these 'protesters' want? How do you feel when you 
hear them? Be fair in your answer. Go back to before your family got 
trapped in the "system." When you were just a regular person and didn't 
give any more thought to Family Law reform than you did to the monetary 
crisis. What has these people so wound up?

Did you CARE before it happened to you?  Funny, we expect our 
politicians to pay immediate attention to this 'national crisis' -- but 
they are only following our example.  It hasn't happened to them....

*2) Creating empathy - Actions still speak louder than words.*

Empathy - the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive 
to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience 
of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, 
thoughts, and experience in an explicit manner /(origin:////from Greek 
//empatheia//(from //em-//'in' + //pathos//'feeling') /////

I think a lot you have also noticed this in the "Internet Age."   It's 
easy to get people to 'talk', much hard to get people to 'do', and 
really hard when it involves peaceful & voluntary personal sacrifice.

I had a pretty wise aid to US Senator once tell me, "John, before any of 
this reform will happen -- you need a 'sea change' in public opinion."

External force, bad-mouthing, ridicule only produce external change.   
We need to change how people feel from within-- empathy!!!  Some of the 
best examples I could find: Martin Luther King 
<http://www.akidsright.org/p_martin.htm>, Gandhi 
<http://www.akidsright.org/p_gandhi.htm>, Francis of Assisi 
<http://www.akidsright.org/p_assisi.htm> & of course, Jesus of Nazareth 

*3. Father's Day 2014 - Senator Schumer & NonViolent Action Resumes!*

I've taken a break for a few years from NonViolent Action for reform.  
Not because I thought the goal was unattainable, or I was tired of being 
arrested & jailed (48 times!) 
(http://www.akidsright.org/arrests_jail.htm), but to stabilize my finances.

I'd had to borrow money from a couple of good friends to make ends 
meet.  Finally, after about 15 years of struggle,my former spouse and I 
finally settled in late 2011 (http://www.akidsright.org/support_jm.htm 
<http://www.akidsright.org/support_jm.htm>). Domenic was getting ready 
to start college, he & I talked about our 'future' plans.  He understood 
my commitment to reform (and possible arrest) and to also help him with 
college expenses (he is ending his Sophomore year now).

NonViolent action is a about 'self' sacrifice and I never wanted to be 
in a position where I needed funding from friends (this was not their 
battle). If I was going to continue things had to be stable. Once I 
could 'drive' again, I have been able to find good work and take care of 
things.  By Mother's day of next year I hope to be ready for more action.

Only once have I had someone join me who was willing to be hand-cuffed 
to demonstrate the injustice of the system and the love she had for her 
children (/haven't had a father willing to join yet, but hopeful that 
will change soon/).

*In January of 2005, a mother,  Cathy Hughes joined me outside the 
Syracuse Federal Building*.  Federal police and an Asst. US Attorney 
watched from the doors as she and I took kid's chalk and wrote "I LOVE 
YOU" and "Sen. Clinton HELP US" on the pavement outside -- they did not 
take any action and we got some TV Coverage 

Senator Clinton has moved on, but we have Senator Schumer.  A very 
intelligent man and concerned about Civil Rights.  As we did with 
Senator Clinton, we will first attempt to engage his staff in dialog 
about Family Rights and getting him personally to discuss/endorse the 
need for a Family Rights Act 

You can check our Legislative Action section 
<http://www.akidsright.org/legislative.htm> for what we have done in the 

We will begin these efforts in the Fall and give the Senator plenty of 
time to respond and engage the members of our group in personal 'public' 
dialog.  If he does not have time to speak with us -- we will be ready 
to take action next Mother's Day & Father's Day. Before 'politicians' 
will think our cause is important, we need to demonstrate it really is 

I should be ready and I ask all of you to think and plan.  People can 
help in many ways, but I do need at least ONE Mother and ONE Father who, 
like Cathy, would be willing to join me and risk arrest.  We'll be there 
to demonstrate the great love we have for our children and our quiet 
actions will speak louder than any words.

Give it some thought.  We even have a self-evaluation checklist 
<http://www.akidsright.org/checklist.htm> to help.
John Murtari (jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org <mailto:jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org>)

*4. SupportTheMovie (our movie) - see it June 20th!*

Many of you have heard about one of the best documentaries regarding 
Family Rights. It shows the damage our present "systems" of Family Law 
cause to the entire Family. "Support? System Down" was released a few 
years ago and you can see some excellent trailers at the site 

  It will be showing in Cherry Hill, New Jersey (just East of 
Philadelphia), on June 20th. See complete details on time & location via 
the link below. I plan to be there and hope to see some of you! These 
events give us a nice opportunity to meet face-to-face.


"Effort & Courage are not enough without Purpose & Direction."   -- President John F. Kennedy

A Kid's Right to Both Parents!

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